Forum:Conversations across two user talk pages

I'm curious: why do most "User talk" discussions take place on two pages simultaneously? E.g. Fred posts on Sally's talk page; instead of replying directly Sally posts her response on Fred's talk page; he responds again on hers (threading as a reply to his initial post), etc, etc. Is there a reason this emerged as a convention, rather than just keeping the discussion where it originated? It makes reading an entire conversation ...rather trying, when you might want to for reference. Starkidsoph ☎  01:23, 28 June 2023 (UTC)

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Not sure if there is any actual reason why, but I find it very confusing to deal with. I also find it very telling that this is some random thing this Wiki made up as when you get Fandon employees use the talk pages on this Wiki, they don't do this bizarre practice (and the same is true across other Wikis. I'm all for changing it TBH. 01:27, 28 June 2023 (UTC)
 * Hell, I'm pretty sure at least one of our inactive admins refuses to do it. I think at least part of the reasoning is that if you respond on someone's talk they get a notification, so for a two person conversation it works better. Makes it harder to read stuff later, but during that conversation it makes sense. IMO the system is bad compared to having done it as conversations on a single talk page since the beginning, but it would be worse to change. Since people would be doing both for quite some time and it would be even harder to read for years, you'd have to figure out what was going on on the fly with each conversation. And in the future people would have to keep in mind that things change at a certain time point except they kinda don't and it's messy. Consistency is a benefit for these sorts of procedural communication things. Najawin ☎  02:45, 28 June 2023 (UTC)


 * I think Wikipedia does it like us, so, if I'm remembering correctly, that's probably its origin. Bongo50   ☎  11:02, 28 June 2023 (UTC)


 * I don't think continuing to do a bad method of communication should be kept just because we've always done it. I don't think it would be that hard to switch as we've only got around twenty regular editors, and non-Tardis editors do it like this anyway. Just put out a notice to alert everyone to the change an then if anyone misses that and does the old method, we can politely tell them we don't do it like that anymore. 11:41, 28 June 2023 (UTC)


 * I agree with Epsilon. "Because we've always done it" shouldn't mean we continue to do so if it's an outdated/bad system. — Fractal Doctor @  11:53, 28 June 2023 (UTC)

Speaking as someone who's currently reading through talk page archives, it's a massive headache to swap between pages, but it would be more of a headache to not know if I need to do so before I open up a discussion. Consistency for communication is actually very important. These things are path dependent. Najawin ☎  18:48, 28 June 2023 (UTC)


 * Surely you can refer to the dates? If it's past, I dunno, August 2023, you'll know it's on one page. 19:20, 28 June 2023 (UTC)


 * Two issues with this. The first is that you tend to look at conversations in batches, and it doesn't transfer as easily as that. You might look at, say, everything on a single person's 4th talk page archive. The second is that you're imagining that everyone switches over perfectly. Let me disabuse you of this notion. Large scale communication procedures never change properly when you try to switch over unilaterally. There's universally problems. What will end up happening is that there will be a transition period where both things chaotically happen in parallel with no rhyme or reason until people get used to the new procedure. This could take a few months to a year or two. Oh. And people who come back after years will still use the old procedure. You never ever change over communication procedures all at once. Najawin ☎  07:10, 30 June 2023 (UTC)


 * Sure, but let's say after we ruled that these conversations should be on one talk page, and then a user missed that and did two; the simple answer is to simply move the message and attribute the edit history. 12:50, 30 June 2023 (UTC)


 * But then what happens if someone looks through someone's edit history and see that they comment on someone else's talk page and go to that talk page looking for a comment that isn't there? Doesn't necessarily affect my workflow, could affect someone else's. These sorts of minute optimizations are infamous for causing more problems than they solve. Najawin ☎  18:45, 30 June 2023 (UTC)


 * A note could be left explaining where the message is? Bongo50   ☎  19:08, 30 June 2023 (UTC)

I don't think this solves the issue, because ostensibly in my example the person would figure out what is going on. It's just that every suggestion introduces discontinuity and uncertainty into how you have to deal with talk pages, and it's not as simple as "oh, just change over after a certain date". I honestly don't know why this is controversial, it's just local/global optima. Najawin ☎  19:31, 30 June 2023 (UTC)